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10 Ways to Protect My Marriage

By Katie Hornor

Recently, someone asked me the question: “How can I protect my marriage?” It forced me to consciously list, and mentally check up on myself, for the things I knew I should be doing to protect my own marriage. Apart from the obvious “Don't cheat on your spouse”, here are 10 practical ways to protect your marriage starting today.

 

10 Ways to protect my marriage. Marriage encouragement from ParadisePraises.com

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  1. Pray for your marriage and for your spouse. – Pretty simple right? But often neglected. No one wants the success of your marriage more than God, because a good marriage between born-again Christians gives a good testimony to the world of the love of God in action. Commit your spouse and your marriage to the Lord every day.
  2. Put their needs above your own. – Easier said than done. But it can be done. Romans 12:10 speaks of love for a brother or sister in Christ, but if you can prefer them, all the more, the Lord can help you prefer your husband/wife. Their physical, emotional, sexual and spiritual needs. Even when you are exhausted or have a headache (Ahem!) God's grace can help you to meet their needs, as He has called you to do (I Thessalonians 5:24).
  3. Be honest, and respectful to each other always. – There is no greater pain than dishonesty or disrespect from the one closest and dearest to you.
  4. Learn their language of apology and be quick to ask forgiveness. This book has been a great tool for teaching us to do this.
  5. Forgive – Forgiveness means when I forgive my spouse I treat him/her just as if they'd never sinned. I don't hold that offense against them any more. I don't continue to bring it up or use it against them.
  6. Have a safe place to discuss differences. – Designate the porch swing, a certain fence post on the property, a certain restaurant downtown or somewhere for a “safe place” for discussing differences or working out problems. Once you've agreed on a place, don't bring it up elsewhere, and especially be careful not to make your bedroom the “disagreement place”.
  7. Become a student of your spouse. – People change with the passing of time. The person you married 10 or 15 years ago, will not be the same today as he/she was then. Their beliefs, goals, interests, and many other things have probably changed. And we should want and expect them to! It is not healthy to remain the same forever, we must all continue to grow and change. But neither is it healthy to treat your spouse as if they are the person they once were. We must continue to study, talk to, ask questions of our spouse. To have and to hold and to guard their heart, you must know their heart.
  8. Resolve not to allow porn into your marriage for any reason. – For a great resource, read this post by Heidi St. John
  9. Learn their love language, and use it often.
  10. Make dating a habit. – Even if it's just 30 minutes a week, make time for each other to be alone and concentrated on each other. Take a walk, run an errand, sit on the porch after kids are in bed (more ideas here)… it looks different for every couple in every season of life, but you should never stop dating!

Now it is your turn! In what ways do you protect your marriage?

 

Filed Under: Marriage Tagged With: marriage

About Katie Hornor

Katie Hornor is a busy wife and homeschool mommy of five. Just like you, she faces the everyday challenge of setting the tone for praise in her home. Katie knows that life can by messy, but she also knows we have a choice. At ParadisePraises.com she inspires other women to be the exception and live a life of intentional praise.

Comments

  1. Donna @ Soul Survival says

    March 19, 2015 at 06:25

    Great tips! I especially like #7. I’m so thankful to God that my husband and I have both changed (I know I really needed it!). As you said, people can and do change. There would be something wrong if we didn’t, even more so, if we came to know the Lord during our marriage. Blessings!

    • Katie Hornor says

      March 20, 2015 at 15:45

      Donna, thanks so much for your sweet comment! Praise the Lord that he keeps working on us and our marriages!

  2. Kaylene Yoder says

    March 26, 2015 at 06:05

    Katie, thank you for sharing another great post at Grace & Truth! I will be featuring this post Friday! Blessings!

  3. Tina says

    April 8, 2015 at 11:26

    Another great post Katie – thanks for sharing on the marriage link up. I love the practicals. Blessings to you, Tina

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